Are you a People Pleaser?
Do you constantly worry you’ve said the wrong thing?
Do you analyse everything before it comes out your mouth?
Do you re-write emails and don’t like pressing send?
If you have answered a good old solid YES to all three then, I’m pleased to tell you that you – my friend – are a People Pleaser!
Now, before we go anywhere with this… and try and get you to be less people pleaser-y – People Pleasing is not a bad thing!
PEOPLE PLEASER’S ARE FABULOUSLY WARM HEARTED AND CARING FOLK…
People Pleaser’s (PP’s for short) make excellent friends.
They are loyal, they have your back. They care.
They can be deep thinkers and will be able to have a meaningful answer for you to that deep question you have been pondering over.
People Pleaser’s are very generous with their time and their knowledge – they will bend over backwards to make things right and then they will bend over some more.
If you know a PP, then you will have a great time at their gathering or party, as they will make sure your glass is always topped up and that you are having a lovely time.
They are super reliable. They make arrangements and stick to them. You can always count on a PP to show up when they said they would and turn up on time.
They really think about the presents they would buy you, because they put a huge effort in because they have listened to your likes and dislikes. They would NEVER regift anything.
They are super considerate and take your feelings to heart.
If you ask a PP this question...
People Pleaser’s will always say YES…
Because they do not like saying NO…
This is what you can do to get some BALANCE
If you find that everyone takes you for a ride, and you are not being acknowledged enough.
And you certainly do not want to change your middle name to “Doormat”…
Here are a couple of simple strategies for you to still continue to be kind, compassionate, loving and caring…
…with some added SASS!
These may feel like impossible thoughts to believe, but let’s play a game…
What if by the end of this blog, you could think about yourself differently?
- What if you still could remain COMPASSIONATE and also included yourself in your compassionate awareness?
- What if you started to put yourself FIRST?
- What if something shifted – and you were able to PRIORITISE yourself – just to see how it felt?
- What if you were able to tell your GUILT to silent mode, just for a little while?
- What if you were able to think about the word SELFISH in a completely new way?
Imagine you were choosing FREEDOM over GUILT
If a Guilt ridden thought comes into your mind, try this…
Breathe in Freedom and Breathe out Guilt – Try it now…