When I moved from the City to live in the Cotswolds - I felt like a little brown alien...
I grew up on a multi cultural West London council estate and we knew all the neighbours in the blocks around us.
Our flat was small. You could hear what room the neighbour upstairs was in and you could see into everybody's lives - all going on from the windows - and that was comforting.
People knocked on the door at all times to borrow things, drink tea and gossip - it was a vibrant and social place to live.
I hung out in Covent Garden, Leicester Square, Carnaby Street, Camden - the Piccadilly line was literally my World...
When I arrived in the Cotswolds, it was totally different to the world that I knew. It was quiet, spacious, green - oh and very white.
I suddenly felt lost and alone in all this open space and didn't like the feeling of silence. I missed seeing other brown faces.
I was shocked at how everything shut at 5pm (in this day and age?!)
I could only get places if I got into my car - the bus system was a joke - Only 3 buses a day - OH MY GOD!
If you wanted a cab, you had to book it a few days in advance. What the hell?
And, when the sun went down - it was ridiculously... DARK - Who decided to turned ALL the lights out?
I didn't fit in here. I didn't belong. I wanted to go back home. I was homesick and I was in DEEP GRIEF.
So, I wrote a book...
Grief can be your best friend
(or your worst enemy)
Are you finding hard to deal with
Change or Loss?
The only way through grief is to grieve...
"A jewel of a book to keep close to your heart"
This book helps you understand grief and not be afraid of your feelings and thoughts. In fact, it is applicable to any change or loss in your life be it relationship breakdown to loss of a loved one or pet. Written in an easy to understand manner it helps you make sense of your feelings and teach yourself how to go forward in a positive manner.
"This was a great reassurance - and a handy reference too"
I sought out this book as very recently lost my mother. In a whirlwind of emotions, and rollercoaster of feelings, this was a great re-assurance. And also a handy reference. For the immediate aftermath of a loss, and also for the mid - long term. As grief is not an immediate wound you can fix. It is ok to feel awry for some time. I will continue to use Dipti's words moving forward through this un-scripted challenge in life.
"Living with Pain of Loss"
This book shares many aspects of grief that we may feel, or think about, but often do not acknowledge, let alone process. There are chapters on loneliness, guilt, shock, stress, and the reality of loss in our daily lives, as well as the possibility for growth. There is little doubt that "Good Grief: A Companion to Change and Loss" is well worth your time and attention. You may also find that it helps you live with the pain of loss with a little more understanding, and acceptance, and provides that bit of support that perhaps you had not have realised was needed, or available.
Grief is like a tangled ball of string and can make us feel like our life is in knots.
It would be nice if it had an easy fix, but unfortunately grieving is not a linear process.
With that in mind, this book helps you untangle that ball of overwhelming knotty emotions.
It helps you process and deal with it in an appropriate way that is right for you.
This book can help you turn your bad grief into Good Grief...
Grief is different for everyone
Some people need more support than others
This book is designed to be your supportive companion to help you when you need it the most.
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Good Grief helps you remember that whatever emotional overwhelm you may be feeling - from confusion, anxiety, extreme loneliness, depression, emptiness and sadness.
Reading Good Grief will help you...
Empty your Stress Bucket
Grief instantly fills up the metaphorical Stress Bucket in the brain.
Reading Good Grief will help you begin to empty the bucket in a very gentle way.
Find some Inner Peace
Our feelings of peace can be disrupted when we are grieving.
Reading Good Grief can help you remember that you are not alone.
Remember your Smile
When we feel emotionally overwhelmed, we forget to smile.
Reading Good Grief reminds you of your own ability to smile again - which is nice.
Grief does not discriminate
If you have loved and lost - you can feel grief...
"This book is worthy of a special place on my book shelf."
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Saying Goodbye to my Mother...
I closed my eyes and knew that it was time to say goodbye. I told her in my mind over and over how much I loved her. I was sorry for the things that I needed to be sorry for, and I loved her, and I would miss her; the children loved her, and they would miss her; and I hoped her soul's onward journey would be peaceful; and I loved her, and I really loved her, and I was sorry.
After a few minutes of this nonsensical giddy repetition, my instincts dictated that I lift my head to kiss her, and as I did, she took her final breath of air and then exhaled very slowly almost like she had a slow puncture. I watched her brow instantly unfurrow and every muscle in her face relax. Her expression was peaceful, and she appeared to have an ethereal glow about her. Her fingers uncurled out of my grip, and it was over. That was it. She had gone.
No drama, no bells and whistles, nothing. Just an empty shell left behind. My mother was no longer inside her body.
About the Author: Dipti Tait
Dipti Tait is a hypnotherapist and mother of teenage boys.
An only child, she describes her journey through grief with the loss of both parents.
Dipti uses her clinical experience alongside reader-friendly exercises to explain how to overcome fear and develop an awareness of turning bad grief into Good Grief.
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